RELATIONSHIP BREAKUP

Many people are familiar with the relationship breakup as one time in life they were involved in a relationship which in turn did not last. A relationship breakup is the termination of an intimate relationship by any means other than death. The term is commonly known as dumbing in slang when it is done by one partner. The term dumbing can only be applied to those who are dating but not among married couples. It is widely known as separation or divorce. When couples engaged to get married breakup it is termed as a broken engagement. Some people believe that the breakup of dating or cohabiting relationships can be as painful or more painful than divorce because these non- marital relationships are less socially recognized.

STAGES LEADING TO A RELATIONSHIP BREAKUP.
The stages which lead to a relationship breakup include dissatisfaction, Exposure, Negotiation, Resolution and transformation and Termination.
Dissatisfaction is where one or both partners grow dissatisfied with relationship.
Exposure: Both partners mutually become aware of problems in relationship.
Negotiation: Both partners attempt to negotiate solutions.
Resolution and Transformation: Both partners attempt to negotiate soulutions.
Termination: Proposed resolution fails to rectify issues and no further solutions are accepted or applied.

There are factors that predict a breakup in a relationship and this includes;
Age difference
Different educational aspirations
Difference in intelligence
Difference in physical attractiveness.

REASONS FOR RELATIONSHIP BREAKUP.
1) Bad behaviors.
The bad behaviors which include smoking, drinking, chewing tobacco and many others have to stop as they can lead to a termination of a relationship.
2) Cheating
This breaks your partner's trust which is really hard to rebuild but it can be done.
3) Misdirected anger
Meeting your partner and bringing a bunch of negative energy with you can only make things ugly. You can have the soothing you need and have your mood changed in a few moments by just asking for a hug and saying sweetheart I have had a bad day.
4) Being unsupportive
If you cannot support the one you love when he or she is stressed because of some life events, you're trying to say that the relationship is not worth your time and energy.
5) Not communicating
Lack of communication in a relationship can lead to break as one partner will be left with the work of forcing the other to communicate which will in turn lead to misunderstandings.
6)Giving up
One partner may see the relationship not working or not going the expected way hence they'll give up.
7) Stealing
Financial problems or lack of financial assistance may make one an individual to steal from the partner and this breaks trust among the partners.

After a breakup an individual will be affected both positively and negatively.
NEGATIVE EFFECTS
1)Psychological Distress symptoms
Being without their partners causes an individual self-concept to shift as they struggle through emotional stress. This involves an active attempt of denying or ignoring the circumstances of the current situation or those that led to the breakup of the relationship. Individuals also feel number and uninterested with the world around them because of the brakubr.
2) Grief Reactions.
A natural effect of the loss of a relationship that an individual had hoped to keep is grief, because they desire to keep the relationship intact despite problems and complications. The grief reactions which individuals go through include sleepless nights, depression and suicidal thoughts.
3) Decline in physical well being
The general negative emotion that individuals feel after a breakup often triggers other behaviors and habits that are either detrimental to their mental health or signify poor mental health conditions which include;
Increased alcohol use
Weight loss
Worsening physical health
Admissions to psychiatric services
Increased criminal behaviors
Increased risj of suicide
Negative emotions and feelings such as guilt, anger and rejection.
4) Stalking effects
One partner attempts to maintain unwanted contact with another. This behavior stems from unhappiness with the circumstances following a breakup of the relationship as well as misguided belief that the stalking may result in the reforming of the relationship.

Everything that has negative effects must have positive effects too even if they are few. The positive effects of a relationship breakup include;
Stress related growth and Improved future relationships.
1) Stress Related Growth
Individuals that are placed under stressful situations are often faced with an opportunity for growth and development as a result of this stress. Without this push to improve, individuals are often pushed towards complecency and refuse to make the necessary efforts to progress through life.
2) Improved future relationships.
People learn alot of lessons after going through a painful experience. The stress that a person goes through after a breakup causes improvements to their overal character- self- image and ability to interact with others. This is due to increased level of maturity by the individual.